Sunday, 3 April 2011

Honesty is the best policy

The other day I saw the orthopaedic expert for an assessment and he will report back to my solicitor.  I was (of course) 100% honest in my answers to his questions, and in my assessment of myself and what I can and can't do.

It got me thinking though. How many people in my situation would have limped into the room, groaned with pain sitting down in the chair and then wildly exaggerated how much pain they were in, and how they could barely walk up stairs let alone walk the dog for an hour.  Just so they could try and get a few more quid compensation. Hmmm, I'm thinking quite a lot of people.

I might have mentioned before how anti-spurious-compensation-claims I am, and how weird it felt being involved in a genuine one (let's face it, she has screwed up quite a few months of my life, physically and mentally, and who knows when I'll be back to normal?).  Hence there is No Way I would lie to an assessor who probably has a fair idea of what he's expecting anyway.

I lied to my orthodontist when I was 13, forgive me if I've told you this before. He asked me whether my gums bled when I brushed me teeth. I lied and said 'No', at which point he told me that they would if I'd been brushing my teeth properly. Damn, damn!    It was around that point that I learned that lying to an expert is probably going to backfire.

I always like having my eyes tested because I have no idea what they are finding out from their various tests with different lenses, so there is no earthly point in lying about my answers in an effort to stay out of the Wearing-glasses Club (and no, I'm still not a member, although I think I'd look quite good in them so in a way it's disappointing).

Why do we sometimes try to second guess what experts (or others) are driving at?  even if we don't lie, we are trying to work out what would be the best answer.  They must word their questions very carefully sometimes to try and ensure they get the truth and not what we think is what they want to hear.

Then there's the question of just not mentioning something ("that you may later rely on in court") - does that count as lying?   I regularly don't mention things to my parents because I don't want to have the Whole Conversation about it, but if they asked me outright there is no way I'd be able to lie to them. By the time I'd thought of the lie, my subconscious would have already blurted the truth out of my mouth.

I am generally pretty good at keeping my mouth shut when it matters though, if I'm told something in confidence it stays in confidence.

And now I've strayed off the original subject, so I'm off to make my packed lunch for my train journey!


  1. Better to fail with Honour than succeed by fraud.

    I like that, hugely.

    Unfortunately, I do denial well and I used lie to physicians all the time. I have one who corners me well. And I've kept him for 15 years. I try to surround myself with people who'll tell me the truth even if I don't wanna hear it and try to lie my way out of getting it.

    Yeah......denial and I maintain a rather intimate relationship--unfortunately. *sigh*

    You're wise to simply say it to the physician.
    I could learn from you.
    Won't, probably.....LOL
    I think I have too much fun seeing if he can trap me into truth. And yes, I know--ultimately if I 'win', I lose.
    I need some serious help, huh? ;-)

  2. Mel, you are indeed a worrying person.. ha! But probably not a good idea to come to me for counselling because I'd probably just tell you to get your shit together ;-) x

    Yes the "Better to Fail with Honour than Succeed by Fraud" should be on all our walls, I think.


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